This is such a hard one to overcome, especially if kids are involved, because it is very easy to “keep score” of diaper changes etc. it also has a lot to do with perception. I assumed my man was keeping score and felt resentment, when really he wasn’t. Communication and keeping a check on your own perceptions is a big one too. We’ve gotten past most of ours and it’s really nice to not be angry all the time love your videos as always!!

This is so true Amy! When I was younger I was even worse about the tit for tat thing. And even now its tough for me to get a handle on how much I’m giving vs receiving. to get the mix that feels ok. In general I tend to give more than I get… Which is ok until it starts to hurt. I think that’s what I look for in myself. If something is starting to FEEL bad to me, I have to pay attention. I have had to learn how to ask my partner for things too. He tells me to ask him. There are jobs that I like to do and ones that he likes more, so se divide things that way a lot. He likes to do the laundry and I like to cook and do dishes while listening to talk radio! One thing is for sure….. its good to be candid and TALK about these issues because sometimes we each are in our own world and don’t realize what the other IS doing to help. I really appreciate what a GREAT communicator you are Amy. Really… you are so clear and balanced in your delivery. I love to hear your videos and watch you too because you have a great sense of style. You obviously have a great heart.